3. ACCEPT WHAT CANNOT BE CHANGED
No matter what ever all the motivational or so called self help manual teach, that nothing is impossible and change your destiny or something like this, but ultimate truth of the life is that some of the things in life you cannot change, and that you have to accept it.
Now, here lies the basic difference, unhappy people to know that there are many things in life which they cannot change but at the same time they cannot accept it and throughout their life they mourn about it. Miserable life becomes more miserable.
Whereas, happy people, after some time realize that there are so many things in their life which cannot be changed no matter how hard they try for it. So, instead of wasting their energies on it, they move forward.
4. THEY AVOID SOCIAL COMPARISON
Do agree now a day’s we live in more closely knitted society in compare of past. Every smallest details of our near & dear, friends, family members, relatives, colleagues, neighbors and even many a times unknown person reach to us through various channels.
There is nothing wrong in to be kept informed about others, but when that casual information becomes addiction it certainly starts to create problems, especially, when each and every smallest movement of our life started in comparison with others, life becomes like a hell.
At first place, it becomes quite difficult to understand why we constantly compare our life with others? Because, whatever, others are doing, they are doing as per their own circumstances and situations.
By constantly comparing our life and our self with others, I don’t know what we gain, but I am very much aware that what we lose in our life.
This is also one of the secrets of happy people that they live their life as per their own perception not by someone else’s perception.
5. HAPPY PEOPLE ARE OPTIMISTIC
It is one of the basic qualities found among most of the happy people. Though, it is not known that due to their happy state of mind they remain positive or they are positive that’s why they remain happy?
But it is commonly observed among them, no matter, how much situations and circumstance are dire for others, for happy people it is a normal way of life, despite of troubles from every other corner of life, still they can find out the ways and means which keep them afloat.
6. HAPPY PEOPLE ARE HONEST WITH THEMSELVES AND OTHERS
From the ages we listen that ‘Honesty is the best policy’ and still we listen it. Happy people are live example of it, because, throughout, their life they try to maintain their honesty in most of their dealings, and due to that, they gain some major and tangible advantages in compare of others. First and foremost, by being honest and transparent in their dealing they don’t have to remember what they told to others.
This single most quality only help them to become more and more happy. Because, it minimize the burden of their mind, they don’t have to remember every fake things they told to others.
7. HAPPY PEOPLE SEE PROBLEM AS A CHALLENGE
No matter what we are, no matter what we have, but as a human being one thing we can never escape, is, the problems are part and parcel of life, whether we like or dislike, whether we accept or reject it, we cannot run away from problems. Problems are integral part of life and this very simple and common understanding only make people happy or sad.
Why they remain happy? Because, very early in their life they realize that problems are made to be dealt with, the more you deal with them the more you used to it, and at some certain point of time they accept it as the one of the essential part of life, so, their reaction towards problems are quite different from negative people. And it really differentiate happy people from unhappy people.
