Passing through the heart wrenching moments of break up. Use these simple yet very significant survival suggestions,tips and get back to life as soon as possible.
A breakup is a loss to both parties; not only to he or she who is told that it’s over. – Mokokoma Mokhonoana
To be rejected by someone doesn’t mean you should also reject yourself or that you should think of yourself as a lesser person. It doesn’t mean that nobody will ever love you anymore. Remember that only ONE person has rejected you at the moment, and it only hurt so much because to you, that person’s opinion symbolized the opinion of the whole world, of God.” – Jocelyn Soriano
The harder you slam a ball into the ground, the higher it bounces back up… A divorce, a breakup, losing a job, or just feeling seriously down can ground you, rough you up a bit, leave calluses on your feet and grit under your finger nails. But more than that, it leaves you wiser and stronger next time… Life is about experiencing opposites isn’t it?” – Laurel House
Break up is indeed tough to handle, because to someone whom you loved so much has left you, dump you and now you are all alone.
For many of us, this is one of the most crucial or most critical period of our life, because on one hand we have to deal or cope up with negative effects associated with it and on other hand we have to move ahead in life, because throughout your life, you cannot mourn on someone who is not with you.You may be feeling very sad,gloomy but do not forget there is life after break up or divorce, millions of people lives fulfilling new life after break up.
For those of you who are interested in subject here, we have mention some simple survival ideas to cope of with break up. If found suitable and seems useful in your life, utilize it in your daily life and avail the benefits of it.
1. BE EMPTY
The simple law of nature manifest that every destruction bring new ways of construction OR you may put it in that way, If you want to rebuild your life, If you want to beginning new life after break up, first of all, wipe out, wash out, throw out all the negative feelings attached with this break up.
For that, you must upload all your feelings, there is no harm to let yourself grieve, there is nothing wrong in being sad, Cry as much as possible, because these are completely natural ways to deal with your sadness.
So, first suggestion to survive a break up is make yourself completely empty from all the past memories associated with your ex.
Give yourself at least one week to grieve, during that session do not care or bothered about your schedule, do whatever you feel or comfortable to do, if you want to sleep for number of hours, just do that. If you want to cry every now and then, do that, If you want to sit idle or lazily throughout the day, just do that.
Slowly and steadily after few days you feel better and this is the proper time to take few tiny steps to move ahead.
2. LEARN LESSONS FROM BREAK UP
Once you have given yourself enough time to mourn, to cry or to grieve, that time consuming or time wasting activity will now yield the fruits, because, now you don’t have anything to cry or grieve. Now, your mind is complete clutter free and all the garbage of past emotions has gone and now your mind has started to function in most logical and analytical manner. This is the right time to evaluate the situation, analyze the break up from every viewpoint, be brutal honest with yourself, find out the reasons of break up. Who was at fault? What could be the precautionary measures had been taken to avoid it? Had you done enough to survive the break up?
These are the some of the questions will help you to see the situation from neutral point of view.
So, in future when you get ready for the start all over again, these are the points help you to sustain your relationship lasting longer.
3. INTERACTION WITH OTHERS IS BEST ACTION
Slowly & steadily start your normal life, get back the previous rhythm of life, start to follow your previous schedule, start to go to your school or college, job or other activities which you had left since last few days.
But, best way back to normal life is start to interact more & more with others like your family members, siblings, friends, colleagues and if possible with strangers too.
Because this activity will generate huge fruits in future. First, while you interact with others you have to take keen interest in life of others so, for time being you forget your own sorrow. Second, By interacting with others you start to keep pace with what’s going around you and you will find many surprising activities are going around you and who knows some of them may caught your attention and bring back true color of your original life.
Suppose, if you spoke with one of your friend and he has recently going to marry and he needs someone around him who can help him to sort out all the wedding planning and if you take keen interest in it, it will not help you to forget your sorrow but at the same time it feel your friend’s heart with joy & cheerfulness.
4. TAKE CONSCIOUS ACTION TO KEEP YOURSELF BUSY
First of all, you emptied yourself from past baggage, Second, you have taken enough time to cry, third, you have started to interact with others. Fine, these are the sure symptoms of normal life. But be careful, still you have not fully recovered, so, still, you have to do extra efforts to wipe out all the past impact of your break up.
For that, you need to keep yourself quiet busy, you have to keep your mind completely occupied with some useful activity which not only utilize your time in wise manner but at the same time it may give you joy and happiness too.
Find out that kind of the activities which you like to do on your spare time. If you have passion for writing, drawing, painting do it. If you like to learn new language, if you like to complete some educational program do it now, this is the right and best time to start it.
The few apparent advantages of it, one, it needs complete concentration of your mind for longer period of time, Second, after completing it you may utilize it in professional manner too.
So, the basic point is that try to keep yourself busy. Turn your negative energy in most positive and creative energy.
5.ORGANIZE YOUR SLEF COMPLETELY
During this gloomy period of your life, you might have lost the control or balance of your life, but, do not worry, it is never too late to improvise. Once again start to organize yourself completely in best possible manner.
Try to be physically fit, include any exercise you like in your daily morning or evening routine. Stay physically active by playing any game with friends, walking, jogging, swimming, cycling or hit the gym. This physically fitness related activities will boost up your mood and soon you will start to enjoy the life.
Keep complete watch on your diet and the food you consume,because during this period you may become careless about your food, so, for avoiding this use only hygienic and healthy food,it will improvise your mood.
During this session if you have cultivate the habit of using alcohol or drug or excessive food consumption, Stop it as soon as mood.
Start to focus on your major goal of life, gradually, gather all the concern details about it, and start to take tiny steps towards achieving it.
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